Have you had a goner of a day? I have, and only too often at that. This is what I have learned from my mistakes, though: a goner of a day can be rescued.
Here are my five ways to rescue those days:
1. Remember what is necessary and focus on that. Weight-wise, this constitutes more than half of the strategy. What is necessary, of course, varies across individuals and families, life circumstances, preferences, needs, and wants.
You may noticed that Husband is not mentioned. That's because on many a near goner of a day, he has glued all our bits and pieces together so that nobody turns irreversibly crazy. There is also no mention of a clean house. Later.
Whatever may be necessary to each one of us, though, I think we can all benefit from the wise words of Saint Francis of Assisi: "Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible, and suddenly, you are doing the impossible." On a near goner of a day, I stick to the first third of his advice. It's always enough. Not that the possible and the impossible are not desirable, but you know what I mean.
2. Dress well and take care of personal hygiene. This is important especially if you are home-based. If you go around the house in your pajamas, barefoot, and sipping coffee brewed three hours before, it is very difficult to get into the work mode. It's conditioning yourself, which is pretty much like pre-heating an oven or winding an old-fashioned clock.
On a crazy day, I could still be in the clothes I had slept in at lunch time. But how long should it take for one to take a trip to the bathroom and dress for battle? That's really how I need to view this fashion challenge. I need to think of myself as a soldier suddenly wakened and called to battle. Otherwise, I will never earn my medal.
3. Eat healthy. We need fuel like cars do. I will not say "Down with fastfood!" even if I want to because we don't have a very good record here. It is, in fact, an embarrassingly ugly record. There. Full disclosure is always good.
4. Content yourself with cosmetic cleaning around the house. "Cosmetic cleaning" is a term that the children and I fabricated during the first year that we made do without household help. It is what you think it means. A little sweeping here, a little wiping there, and lots of putting away and hiding here and there. Give yourself 15 minutes max and not a second more, and condition yourself to be happy with the results.
No matter how numerous are the things that we cannot control, there is one thing that we can always control and that is ourself. We can choose to be the ugly person in our children's lives, or we can choose to be cheerful, purposeful, and productive thereby teaching them a simple but precious lesson on "dealing with it".
How do you deal with crazy days?